Prepare a plan for your last moments of life and for what could happen after that, for having less worries about it overall.
A "death date" is one of the possible scenarios for your final moments. You can keep several plans (e.g. illness, accident, old age) and rank each by how much you'd like that one if it had to happen. Naming the scenario helps you and others tell them apart.
Title — give it a short, recognisable name. It will appear in the resume and in any document you export. Examples: "Slow goodbye at home", "Sudden — best case", "If I'm already gone".
Favourite — your relative liking of this scenario compared to your other plans. Not a wish, a preference: "Liked" means peaceful with it, "Maybe" means undecided, "Not too bad" means acceptable if it had to happen. There's no "bad" option — every scenario you write here is one you've chosen to think about.
Environment
Where and how you'd like the moment to unfold. Be sensorial: the people who help you will fill the gaps with what they imagine, so the more concrete you are, the closer it lands.
Place — accepts plurals. List every option that feels good (home, sea, mountain, the kitchen…) and any place you specifically don't want. If conditions matter ("home if I can still walk, hospice otherwise") write them.
Logistics — the ambient details: light (candle? sun? dim?), sound (silence, sea, a specific song or playlist), smells, decorations, what you'd like to be wearing, who is in the room, what's on the bedside table.
Procedure — the step-by-step. From "wake me at sunrise" to "read this poem at the end". Include cues for the people present: when to speak, when to be quiet, when to leave.
Companions
Who you'd want present (and the role you'd ask of them) and your health-care preferences. Be explicit: hard limits, soft wishes, and the conditions that change the answer.
Who and Roles — names matter, but roles matter more. "Anna — holds my hand", "Marc — talks to the doctors", "no kids in the room", "anyone from the choir is welcome". If you don't want someone there, say it; silence here often becomes their guilt later.
Health care — your stance on medical decisions: resuscitation yes/no, pain management ("any dose, even if it shortens"), feeding, intubation, sedation, organ donation. If you have an advance directive on file, point to it here too.
More conditions — the "ifs": what changes if the scenario is sudden vs. slow, conscious vs. not, at home vs. hospital. Triggers for switching plans, people to call first, people not to call.
Heritage

#### Farewell Message

#### Post mortem actions scheduling

What you leave and to whom — objects, words, and scheduled actions. The legal will is the spine; this is the flesh around it.
Donated things & Recipients — specific objects → specific people (or causes). Pair them: "the green book → Lucia", "guitar → whoever in the family plays it", "all my plants → the downstairs neighbour". Mention the ones with stories so the meaning travels with the object.
Farewell Message — three audiences, three voices.
· To myself: what you want to remember about your own life, what you forgive yourself, what you're proud of.
· To close people: the things you didn't say enough — gratitude, secrets, asks ("don't be afraid to fall in love again"). Name people if you can.
· To the world: the public message, the one anyone could read. A poem, a stance, a goodbye, a joke.
Post mortem actions scheduling — set dates, ranks or conditions that trigger gestures after you're gone. A letter delivered in 5 years, a tree planted next spring, a donation released when a child turns 18, a song played every year on a date. Each row pairs a date/condition with the action and the trigger logic.
Other things to do
Loose ends across time — use these as a checklist for whoever helps you. The split is chronological so nothing has to be remembered all at once.
Before — things you'd like to wrap up while you still can: conversations you want to have, places you want to revisit, projects to close (or hand off), apologies, debts (financial and emotional), passwords written down, devices logged out, a tour of where the important papers live.
During death — gestures for the moment itself, on top of what's already in Environment: a hand to hold, a phrase repeated, a window open, the door closed, whether you'd like to be spoken to even if you can't answer.
After death — administrative and tender tasks: notify these people first, cancel these subscriptions, who feeds the cat, who takes the plants, the body (burial / cremation / donation), the funeral (or no funeral), social media accounts (delete / memorialise / leave alone), and the order in which to do all of it.
Formal information
The legal scaffolding around the rest of the plan. None of this replaces a will or a medical directive — it points to them.
Disclaimers — what this document is and isn't. Examples: "this is a personal companion to my notarised will dated …", "in case of conflict, the will prevails", "the medical directive of … takes precedence over preferences written here". Date it; sign it if you're printing it.
Legal contact — a single person (notary, lawyer, executor, trusted friend) who knows where the real documents live and has authority to act. Name + a way to reach them that won't go stale (office number rather than personal mobile if possible).
Other Documents — pointers to everything else: will, advance medical directive, insurance policies, organ-donor card, property deeds, account inventories, digital-legacy instructions. Use the 📎 button to attach the actual files; the text field next to it is just a short note ("notarised, copy with Anna") that appears alongside in the resume.
📄 Resume
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